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Week 3- How illuminating! October 19, 2007

Filed under: The Challenge — thediaperdiaries @ 9:13 pm

sex-challenge.gif New to the challenge? Read this first.

How did you do with last week’s challenge? Feeling sexy yet?

Last weeks challenge got me thinking about how much of a factor self image is in our marital sex lives. Let’s just admit that there isn’t a whole lot sexy about the post baby body. A flabby tummy, stretch marks, saggy boobs, the list goes on.

I once heard a speaker at a marital conference say, “When wives are naked they are thinking, ‘Oh my gosh, I am so fat (flat, ugly, flabby, etc).’, while their husbands are thinking, ‘Holy cow my wife is naked and I get to have sex!'”

Seriously ladies we need to cut ourselves some slack and give our hubbies some credit. I will admit I am shocked sometimes my hubby still finds me sexy, but for some reason he does. I would bet a large amount of cash that your hubby does also (wait, you not me…that would be very wrong).   

So this week’s challenge, I will admit may be difficult for many of us. Your first two weeks were easy though so lets step it up a bit. Are you ready…have sex with the lights on. Most women I know typically prefer it to be so dark they can’t even see their hand in front their face, but men are visual creatures. They were created by God to be that way. So let’s put aside our own insecurities and enjoy our husband’s enjoyment of us.

Check back next Saturday for your weekly challenge. Are you in?


8 Responses to “Week 3- How illuminating!”

  1. LOL You are exactly right. That is exactly what our husbands are thinking. Especially for husbands (like mine)who had to live through a wife on bedrest (no hanky, much less panky). He and I have had that conversation, I have it straight from the horse’s, er, husband’s mouth!

  2. Erin Says:

    Wow, this one is hard. I admit that sex with the lights on or even sex during the middle of day is hard for me b/c of this very reason. But, bring it on!

  3. lifeafterbaby Says:

    Hmmmm. That is indeed a challenge. I may opt for candle-light. I don’t like bright, full-on lights–I get distracted. Maybe that’s half the challenge, though, to focus on your spouse and practice tuning out the distractions that creep in on your special time together. While most of men’s sex experience is physical, woman’s is mostly mental–hence the need to really make sure our minds are engaged fully on the task at hand.

  4. adventuremom Says:

    My hubby says Right on! I read him your post 🙂 Ok so I have to say I will try this with mood lighting not interigation lights. As far sexy panties go I am in pregnant mode so I have to hold of on that for a bit. How about next week you suggest some plastic surgery to make us look fabulous so I can get it and blame it on you 🙂

  5. canearl Says:

    I’m up for this one! You are right though about how our husbands see us so differently than we see ourselves. I’m so thankful for that!

  6. SAHMmy Says Says:

    With the two kiddos, I don’t often have the luxury of choosing between light and no light–opportunity knocks but once! Thankfully my parents did a stellar job of raising me with a healthy body image–if anything, I see myself as more fit than I probably really am! Hopefully I can do the same for my daughter.

  7. I read this to Hubs and he says “It’s never a good idea to think ‘Holy Cow’ though.”

    I’m reading all of your challenges now and preparing to clean up the bedroom tomorrow! Thanks!

  8. Britni Says:

    Most people have sex in the dark? I still have the “fat feelings” even with the lights off so why not turn on the lights? I like being able to see.

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