How Merry is the hubby’s Christmas going to be? This Christmas week, your challenge is to have a conversation with your husband asking him what you could do to improve your sex life. How scary is that?
Does your hubby know you are taking The Challenge? Has he even noticed if you are? I will confess even as the “challenger”, I have not participated in every week. Life just gets in the way sometimes. Maybe this is the week you tell him about it and see if there is anything on the list he particularly wishes you would have participated in. If you are an A student in your weekly assignments, then is there anything we haven’t discussed that would make his holidays a little brighter?
The hubby and I don’t usually give each other gifts for Christmas and anniversaries. Instead, we give the gift of time- a fancy date night, theater tickets, a weekend away, etc. We then use these times to check in with each other and see how “we” are doing. By we, I don’t mean us separately, or mommy and daddy, but hubby and wife. Often that conversation inevitably leads to how we are doing in the bedroom. Ladies, it is time for that conversation.
Now, here are the rules.
Timing: If this is a painfully difficult conversation to have, probably best not to time it on Christmas eve on the way home from church. This is not meant to ruin the holidays. Pick a time when you are not stressed and emotional. Preferably one where you are 50% awake.
Preparation: Gear yourself up to really and truly hear what the hubby has to say. Hold your defensiveness and excuses (well, I’m tired and you never help me, and I got fat…). Just listen with an open mind.
Ground Rules: Whatever is suggested must be biblical and consensual. This might be obvious, but some woman misunderstand what being submissive means. If the by some odd chance, the hubby suggests something that there is no way on earth you would feel comfortable with or it an outright sin, then the answer is of course no way. If he just suggests something a bit out of the ordinary that might be slightly out of your comfort zone, give it a try. Just make sure you keep the lines of communication open.
Nothing like leaving a crazy hard challenge for “the most wonderful time of the year.” If it is too scary, you can always pretend you were too busy with the holidays to read it. I won’t know either way (but Jesus will…I’m just sayin’)