We are taking a break from giving you a challenge to work on this week. Instead I want to take a brief moment to get a bit serious and discuss a different kind of challenge. It’s the challenge of maintaining an active and exciting sex life without compromising your purity. I am going way out on a limb and way out of my comfort zone, but because I feel this is so important, I am taking that risk. I have a dear friend who just went through an ugly divorce because of a problem that I think is sadly avoided in Christian circles. In fact, her ex-husband once confessed this problem to a group of Christian men and he was shunned. The problem I refer to is porn. In this case, it started with porn and spiraled into affairs and worse. Devastating does not even begin to describe her experience.
Porn is a 57 billion dollar industry. Can you even wrap your brain around that number? Sadly, 50% of Christian men admit to viewing it. 13% of women also confess to the same thing. I have had a few conversations lately with men and women whose lives and marriages have suffered major devastation because of porn coming into their lives.
Let me just give you my humble opinion on the matter. Porn has no business in your marriage. I have heard people argue that it enhances things in the bedroom or that it is just something their hubby watches and it is no big deal. Let me just caution you about this. First of all, who can live up to a porn movie? Not only the bodies, but the unrealistic performances. There is nothing realistic or healthy about it. The problem is it causes us to start to view sex as “dirty” and “forbidden.” God did not create sex to be either. I would implore you to take a good hard look at the affect this is truly having on your marriage.
I am not an expert in this matter and thankfully it is not something that has been an issue in our marriage. However, let’s not as women be naive about our husband’s struggles. Nearly all men struggle with lust, and porn just feeds that struggle. I am certainly not suggesting that every man is a closet sex addict, but I am certainly advocating that we do whatever we can to protect the sanctity of our marriages.
If this is something that you think may be a problem in your marriage head over to one of my favorite organizations helping Christians overcome their addictions XXXChurch or New Life Ministries. To read about God’s amazing grace when working through a husband’s betrayal head over here. In the end, our challenge in marriage isn’t just about having great sex, it’s to maintain a great and healthy sex life over the long haul of marriage.